I find it funny when people define themselves as a diva, princess, sexy or the like. The likelihood of them actually fitting the description is slim to none. A few years ago, there was a surge of shirts and jogging pants that boasted of everything from Porn Star to Hot. I will never forget my cousin saying: "if you have to wear it on your shirt, than it doesn't fit." Truer words have never been spoken by her. This came to my mind yesterday when a woman, on two occasions, referred to herself as a "Diva". I beg to differ. In fact, most "divas", don't even consider themselves divas. They will try their best to convince you how 'down to earth' they are. I can speak from personal experience. My girlfriends have this notion that I am bourgeois and to use my girl, Lady L's words, "yeah, you're stuck up". I really don't get it. I feel like a down-to-earth girl, who happens to have very specific tastes. Well, what I consider specific tastes, comes across as the finer things. Yes, I enjoy attending the opera, having tea at the Drake, Broadway shows in New York, annual trips to Mexico, hosting potluck vision board parties, drinking Hungarian wine, monthly facials, specialty cheeses and cupcakes. But who doesn't? For this I have been told many times by friends, "you know how your are". That is the difference between the diva and the self proclaimed "diva". How you perceive yourself is usually not who or how you really are. Drunk people rarely admit to being drunk. I just thought it was funny. She made a big deal about it. I think it's important to define yourself, but when it comes to being fly and/or a "diva", let someone else compliment you or vouch for your behavior. When you do your own advertising, it loses some weight of validity.