So here it is, New Year's Eve 2011. It is the last day of the year and I have finally decided what my goals are for 2012. Last year I had so many awesome and outright blessings that I was able to document each in bulk on Facebook for an entire week. This year was a little more quiet. So instead of breaking 2011's events down, let's look forward. Here are my goals:
Be a Better Friend
When I tell you my friends look after me and take care of me, I am not exaggerating. They have been so good to me; yet, I feel I have been lackluster in showing reciprocity. I just finished a 30 minute conversation with my Mom about me and my friendship. It is sad you have to get tips from your mother on being nice to people. I mean it's not like I'm in kindergarten, but some things need to be said. I need to learn to depend on me more and use them less for necessities and allow them to just be friends for friends' sake.
Visit Friends in Other Cities
I make a point of visiting Antoine in every state/city he decides to move to, no matter where. I say state/city because I only visited him when he lived in Orlando not Tampa (I do not like Tampon, I mean Tampa). So Orlando covered his Florida move. Yet I still have not made it to Las Vegas, where he currently resides. Which is crazy, because I could not wait until he moved there so I would have a cool place to visit. Tickets to Vegas can be a bit pricey and I keep putting it off. Knowing Antoine, he may be anywhere in the next couple of months. So the sooner the better. Then there are 3 other good friends of mine that I need to visit who also moved out of state. I promised each I would, but this year, I am going to make it happen with at least one.
Pay Off My Car and All Credit Cards
I have discussed this before and so here we are again. In my post IR(arely)S(ave) I discuss how I want to have at least one of my cards paid off by the end of the year. It seemed possible and it was until the hood of my car flew up, while I was driving mind you! My 'baby' is currently in the car hospital being repaired (hopefully to good as new standards). That put a bit of a dent in my plans. But fear not, I will have that Ann Taylor card paid off by February. I have $551.96 left, which I can knock out in two payments, just not now. After that, there is the $2000 balance on my Visa. It is actually less than $2000, but when it's that close, there really isn't a difference. My goal is to clear that up in 4-6 payments. My car needs to be paid off soon and very soon. I feel I can appreciate my car more, if I did not have to pay for her every month. By June, I should be free of all three. Then I will focus on my medical bills. If you remember I had a surgery in September; that was not cheap. All in all, this all seems manageable and doable, so it will be done.
Get Back to Europe
This is not life or death, but it feels like it. So it has made the list. I am just going to claim it...nuff said.
Start Actively Dating Again
Yep, I said it. And I am not the only one who feels this way. I just have the courage to say it/write it out loud. When I think back on 2011, it seemed as if I had a lonely existence, but actually, when I do the math, I can say I went on at least 16 dates this year. Not bad considering 2 were from eHarmony (yeah I gave that a whirl for all of 2 months), 1 was Nigerian (before you 'shutter to think', I liked him the best), 1 Serbian (I liked him to), 1 was 6 years younger (purrr) and 1 had a girlfriend, now fiancee, with whom he lived. You remember him from We Can't Be Friends, he was 'trying' to break up, but never did. Well now his Facebook relationship status reads engaged, with the link to the other person! Yikes! I am not counting Panty-Man, because we never actually went out on a date- broke mutha... If you factor in my 5 month hiatus where I couldn't do any strenuous activities, doctor's orders, I did alright.
With that said, I want to take it up a notch in 2012. I am truly ready to settle down. I feel like this is my year. I say that every year, but I really feel it this year. Although, I have not secured a steady, long-term mate, I have noticed, my caliber of men has shifted. They are all 'on point' as I like to say. We did not have a love or sex connection (read), but I still liked the fact that I have increasingly attracted 'better' men (in my opinion) as I have matured. The most recent men are more of a reflection of my tastes. I just need to find the one whose personality links best with mine (not an easy task). Of all of my goals for 2012, this is the hardest because I have the least control over this one. But I feel if I put in the Universe that I want to establish a positive and healthy relationship, blessed by God, where the man and I are mutually suited for each other, it will happen. Doubt and worry are for non-believers...
Give God More of My Time
I need to get back on an active church schedule. I have really been trippin' this year! Not only do I want to start back going to service on a regular, I need to be more active in the church again, joining a Bible study group and choosing a ministry to participate in, God has been so good, I cannot even begin to tell you, but I'm sure you have your own stories so you know. I can at least try to give back with my time not just my tithes (yes, although I have not been active in the church, they take their 10% off top from each paycheck).
So there, I have exposed my personal goals in the hope of conquering each in 12 months time. I am a firm believer that the way you bring in a new year is indicative to how you will spend that year. But regardless of if I kick it, kiss someone, party or get 'tipped' on champaign tonight, here's to new beginnings, good friendships, happy and healthy family, good times and love across the board! However I usher in 2012, I have 366 days (it's a leap year) to get it right.