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Tuesday, June 21, 2011

I Do...Not Care!

So here is my first 'public' rant/opinion about gay marriage.  It has come up in the news  again and irking me ever since.  My question is, why is this such a hot topic?  Maybe it's because I come from a 'liberal' and open-minded family that I cannot understand the big fuss.  Why are people not picketing and rallying up against poverty in one of the richest nations in the world?  Why does homelessness not urge people to march on Washington?  How come sex abuse and sexual assault are not worth debating?  These are real issues to me.  Not 2 adults deciding to live together, marry and live as a family.  Today, there is a child somewhere in America who went to school with no breakfast on their stomach, ate the free lunch provided by the state, knowing that that would be their last meal until tomorrow at lunchtime.  This does not bother people?

It makes me think of the brother and sister-in-law of an old friend of my mom's.  After the Katrina disaster, these two individuals left their home in Chicago, to go down to New Orleans to help out.  At first, your initial thought is probably like mine, wow how wonderful of them.  Well, hold that thought.  They were not down their to help the people of New Orleans, rather they booked several motel rooms to rescue dogs and house them there.  Now on the bright side, maybe they decided that they would try to locate the owners and reunite them with their beloved pets.  Regardless, all I keep thinking about are the 1800+ people who lost their lives as a result of the hurricane and subsequent flooding.  With all the people displaced from their homes, these two individuals thought to save dogs.  Now I love animals, especially dogs, but come on!  Like the gay marriage argument, people have their priorities out of order.

The major argument against gay marriage is how it goes against Christian religion.  But so is so many other things we do each day.  People point to how the Bible says it is a sin.  However, does not the good book also discuss loving each other:  Matthew 22:39, Leviticus 19:18, Romans 13:8 & 10, Proverbs 19:17, 1 John 3:17-19.  Few people want to discuss the issues of the poor, the un- and under-educated, the disenfranchised and the oppressed.  That population of the country/world are not as interesting.  The titillation factor is lowered when you start talking about basic human rights, like healthcare.

I have said to numerous brothers (I don't know why they are so angry about gay men, I have a clue though *side eye*) that the only reason homosexuality is so 'disgusting' to them is because their heads are in the gutter.  If a man meets a heterosexual couple, the things that might go through his mind are, 'his girl is fine', 'I wonder how long they've been married?' yadda, yadda, yadda.  But when they see a same sex couple, their minds, as do so many other's drift off to:  'how do they have sex?', 'who is the boy and who is the girl?', etc.  If people took the sex equation out of the mix, would this be as big of a deal?  If folks were not trying to figure out the gender details of the situation, would you really be as concerned?  Face it, for the most part, gay couples make people feel uncomfortable because of the sexual aspect.  Hetero couples do all kinds of sick, twisted, demeaning and sometimes sadistic sex everyday, but when they meet outsiders, people rarely, if ever think, 'I wonder how they have sex?'.

When it's all said and done, does it even matter?  I believe God will take care of his children.  I believe God loves us all.  I believe that some of us will face a rude awakening when we get to the afterlife and realize that some of the major topics that consumed us here on Earth were not God's priority after all.  Maybe I am biased because of my personal relationships with gay men and women.  Whatever the case may be, all I know is my God can handle his own business.  He does not need help from us mere mortals.


  1. Are you in my head? Very well said!

  2. I am invisible, simply because people refuse to see me. Ralph Ellison

  3. Beautifully written! I totally agree! You like it I love it is my theory. :)