Out of the blue, my 23-year-old nephew contacted me via Facebook instant messenger to ask me to send him ‘some money’. He initiated the exchange by saying he was attending Heartland, a local community college in his town. My nieces and nephews know that education is my weakness. If they mention school, I get excited. I want them to go to school and make a positive mark on the world and their lives. Call me optimistic, but I feel it’s never too late to do something positive with your life. With that said, I did not believe him. I ignored the message and did not respond.
You see, I was not raised to give men money. Especially for reasons like doing someone ‘a favor’. Which is what my nephew offered as an explanation. He did not ask for a specific amount, or detail what he planned on doing with the money he was asking for. In fact, this able-bodied young man, who is only eight years younger than me, has not even contacted me since. I am okay with that. Because I hope he understands the message I am sending via my non-response.
There is this misconception that just because I work and do not have any kids, I should have all this expendable cash. Wise spenders have extra cash. Just because I am responsible, does not mean I am 'responsible'. Or that I have cash for you. No I do not have school supplies to buy, but my 'supplies' are just as important, like the cute suede peep-toe booties I bought last week. Or the four pairs of earrings I just had to have, that I ordered with a giddy smile on my face the other day. I got paid a week ago and the check is just about gone. Am I proud of this? Not necessarily (I’m working on it). But this is one of the reasons why I do not have kids now. I am my own child. I take care of myself. I spoil me! Traditional parents buy back-to-school clothes, I shop for fall trends that translate for both day and night. My field trips are to the Sprinkles cupcake shop, Ann Taylor and the Loft, Century Centre Cinema for an indie flick with my girlfriend, Sanctuary Nail Spa for a minx pedicure and basic manicure, not to mention spa services at the Peninsula and trips to wherever, whenever. Please do not ask me for money; my 'baby's' gotta eat!!